the art of pleasing is the art of deceiving

as usual, me and candace had the biggest heart to heart today.
after discussing boys, and roommates, coworkers, and enemies we finally got down to the grit of everything.

being happy.
i believe there is only one way to be truly happy. and that is by pleasing yourself.
and you only.
now don't get all excited and think it's okay to go rob a bank, or do drugs because that is "pleasing" to you.
but honestly, are you ever beyond happy when you are being told what to do left and right, living for others and not for yourself?
how many times do you back out of something because it wouldn't "please" someone.
whoever that someone might be.
your parents, your friends, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your grandparents, your husband or wife, your children.
again, let's not get too many wild ideas with this, but really.

as i look back on the past two years of my life, i've been most happy when i'm doing things that please ME. it may not be EXACTLY what my parents wanted for me, or what my friends did, and maybe some of my own siblings. but whatever i was doing made me happy. and in these moments i'm the most worry free girl you will ever know.

and who is to say that those things that may not be pleasing to others are wrong? some people think it's wrong to drink diet coke. but i'm a diet coke addict. i do it to please myself, not others. some think it's awful to watch jersey shore. but i can't help it if vinny is a total babe, and snooki is the funniest little meatball i've ever seen. i love that trashy show, and you bet my favorite day of the week is jersday.

now all these things are very small, but still. they please me. in most cases though, things are usually a lot greater when it comes to pleasing people in life changing ways. like for example, me going to hair school. you can go ahead and think i'm "dumb" because i went to beauty school. but when did i ever tell you that the only reason i'm attending beauty school is because i was denied from every college in the country that i applied to? oh wait, i never said that. i went to beauty school because i wanted to. i wanted to have that for breathing room, a back up plan. i want to have the ability to help people feel beautiful. it pleases me.

these aren't the greatest examples, but i guess what i'm trying to get at is that we all need to live for ourself.

we need to have our own opinions.
we need to make our own decisions.
and we need to live how we want to live.

because if we don't, we'll all be slaves to society.