this last friday; may 27th, 2011. matt and taylor got married. adorable, right? well it was. i've never seen a couple so happy. probably because i never pay attention at weddings or wedding receptions... but they looked so happy. heck! they are so happy.
ever since i started school i've vowed to myself that i'm not going to get married anytime soon. soon being in the next 10 or 12 years. now, pull your jaw back up and save your laughter. i say that in all seriousness. and i do have my reasons...
#1. i just straight up don't like boys right now. nooooooooooo, i'm not a fetching lesbian. i honestly just have zero interest in men right now. well no, i'm interested in men, just not boys. and it seems like that's all i'm surrounded by now a days. plus, i'm only 18. (almost 19!) men don't take this ginger seriously. but i'm okay with that. you know why? if you've been watching the bachelorette i'm sure you all know who "bad news bentley" is. and may i remind you where he's from? UTAH. yeeaaahh. no bueno.
#2. i've heard 12 too many stories about marrying the perfect guy and finding out he's either freddy krueger or brian david mitchell over night. i rather save myself from such mayhem.
#3. i dont want to get married, and then divorced. i know so many amazing women who have gone through the heartbreak of divorce. yes, they are ten million times stronger today than they were back then. and yes, most of them have been blessed with one in a million kind of husbands and wonderful lives, but most girls never think they'll divorce the man of their dreams. i want that almost perfect marriage the first time around.
those are all legitimate reasons i think.
but something taylor's dad said during his speech at the lunch in after their wedding struck me like a ton of bricks.
he said how he was told to live by the phrase; never go to bed angry. and after his wedding, after the honeymoon, and while life began to happen, he told us that if he never went to bed angry, he would never sleep! there were nights he went to bed angry, and that was okay. there is still nights that they both go to bed angry, and it is still okay.
he then said this; marriage is work. you both have found a good enough reason to get married, and every day you need to find a good enough reason to stay married. if possible, there is almost always a good enough reason to stay married.
and i believed him.
you always hear marriage is hard, marriage is work, marriage is this, marriage is that. but on that friday afternoon i finally got it all.
so maybe this ginger believes in a happily ever after after all.
maybe not.
but i get it.
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